Monday, February 25, 2013

Relationship or Rivalry




No. The dog isn't dinner. Sambo the lab and Sabal the panther are cuddling! They are best buds. And the sign on the very large cage says, "If separated, will stress-out."

Over Christmas break, we took a family vacation to Florida. One of the places we visited was an Alligator Farm in the Everglades. Although I'm not exactly sure why the dog and panther were at an exhibit with snakes and gators- I'm glad they were! (Hey- are panthers native to Florida?)

Anyway...

We saw the two pals play, run, wrestle (I held my breath a couple times), and cuddle. Crazy. All six of us were mesmerized.

In a way it made me think of my four kids. Each one so different from the other. Yet if one is separated from our little family - it just doesn't feel right.

It's good to know as my teen and young adults grow into their own lives, they are still there for each other. Currently, one of  the four is going through a tough time. The other three have all rallied and are reaching out.

In the midst of the trial, I have seen blessings. Blessings in love and devotion. I'm grateful God has given them a heart for each other.

Here are a few tips to be a relationship builder verses a relationship buster:
      1. Avoid comparison. "Joey works really hard at _____. Why don't you exert more effort like him?"
      2. Do NOT play favorites. Find good things and ways to connect with each child.
      3. Build the relationships. "Caitlin thinks you are the coolest sister. She loves spending time with you."
      4. Allow time for your older kids to hang out without mom and dad.

What types of things do you do to increase relationship and decrease rivalry?

Be devoted to one another in brotherly love.
Romans 12:10
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Monday, February 18, 2013

Presidents in the Buff


Picture taken by Lori Wildenberg

History buff...not me. Memorizing  facts, dates, names of people who are long gone....What a SNOOZE. Unfortunately, I most likely infected at least three of my kids with the history doldrums. (What a fail!)

My attitude began to turn around after watching National Treasure with my fourth kid. My daughter LOVES that movie. She somehow missed drinking my poisoned opinion. (Maybe Tom, the History Trivia King, created an antidote to my attitude.)

Actually, I am beginning to discover history is far from Dullsville. If presented in an interesting way it is (I can't believe I'm saying this) exciting and enticing.

Look at the fun facts I discovered about the one-dollar bill.

• On the front of the bill is George Washington, first United States President. Prior to being the president he was a General and a chaplain in the army! And… kids love this…he didn’t have wooden teeth but he did have a cow’s tooth!

• The reverse side of the dollar contains both sides of the Great Seal of the United States adopted in 1782.

·         To the left, is the eye of Providence on top of the pyramid recognizes God’s involvement in the affairs of man. On the bottom is the date 1776 with the words Annuit Coeptis, which means “He (God) has smiled on our undertakings.”

•    On the right is the American Eagle, our national symbol. The eagle’s
      talons hold a cluster of arrows and an olive branch. The arrows
      represent defending the nation and the olive branch, peace. The
      eagle’s shield has 13 stripes depicting the 13 colonies. (Just like the
      U.S. flag.) The eagle’s beak holds a ribbon that reads E pluribus Unum,
      the official motto of the United States. It means “out of many, one.” The
     colonists were immigrants representing many different countries but
     uniting together.

 •   Above the word ONE on the backside of the dollar is the phrase In God
                         We Trust.  The very last bill signed by President Abraham
                        Lincoln required this declaration to be present on all currency.


In my quest to find out more about The United States of America I have discovered that Christians were an integral part of building our nation. February is a perfect month to focus the heritage of the U.S.A. and on the influential people in our country’s past. This is the month America celebrates black history and the presidents.

Now…grab a kid, a dollar, and a magnifying glass. Examine the bill. And while you are at it…the number of thirteen like items is seen in more places than the just the shield. Go on a National Treasure Hunt of your own and discover all the spots the thirteen things show up. Have fun!

You have given me a heritage of those who fear your name.
Psalm 61:5b

 Happy Presidents' Day!

What attitudes have you passed along to your children?

Monday, February 11, 2013

My Word, His WORD




I'm a little behind. Many bloggers have chosen their word for the year. I just picked mine. Actually, it may have found me.

I've been feeling a little sorry for my mom-self. Yep...I've been attending my own Cry in your Beer- Whine and Cheese party. At my little gathering, it's just me and God. I'm a terrible hostess. You see, I've been kinda...not kinda...REALLY ...angry with God. There I said it.


Why is He allowing some circumstances to enter  into the life of one of my kids?

I dare Him- Hit me with your best shot...not my kids.

Doesn't God know...my kids are off limits?


The enemy says, "You're a bad Christian. Why aren't you rejoicing in your suffering?"

God tells me, "I know you're angry. I know you're hurt. I know you love your children with your whole being. I understand. I can take it. I am the God of compassion. Talk to me."

So...I have been. I'm telling God how I feel, what I think, what I want. (It is all good and reasonable, I tell the Lord.)

He listens. He loves me.He reminds me He loves my children. More than I do....

Since my emotional dumping, God has given me peace. I have opened my hands and given my struggling child and my motherly concerns over to Him. I remember who He is.

He is good.

He is God.

And I am not....

So while I wait and sometimes wail  in the wings of trust and hope, the Lord is refocusing me. He is fine tuning my nearsighted vision so I can can be more farsighted. He's riveting my eyes off of my circumstances and showing me...another way.

He lifts my head, I look up and around. He says, Love Me. Love People.

Here's my word. It's not sexy like bold, courageous, fearless. When spoken it sounds gentle not powerful. It is articulated from the back of my throat. Breathy. The word God gave me is ANOTHER.

So while the Lord moves in the life of my kid, I'm seeking scripture that keeps me looking outward- at another. I exhale my word and am reminded of God's breath of life- the Holy Spirit-working in my child's heart and situation.

Does my heart still ache. Yes. Do I still have angry moments? Oh yah. (Tom will confirm this.) But the Lord has drawn me to another place. A place where I have hope in a God that is good...so good.

                                                            Photo by Lori Wildenberg



"Love one another. 
And this is love: that we walk in obedience to his commands. 
As you have heard from the beginning, his command is that you walk in love."
2 John 5b-6



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Monday, February 4, 2013

A Hearty Appetite!


Friends,
I'm excited to have Leigh Miller as my guest blogger today! She has a passion for helping parents who have picky-eater kids! Leigh has been working in the area of nutrition for over ten years. Blessing and Bon Appetit! ~Lori



My  granddaughter is a "picky eater".  Cecelie has her favs: noodles, gold fish, chicken nuggets. Sometimes…on her daring food days, she’ll ingest apple sauce and bananas. Her parents are just happy she will eat  ANYTHING!

Sound familiar?

As parents we want to give our kids the best opportunity to thrive.  We help them with homework. We give them music, ballet, swim, tennis, hockey, or gymnastics lessons. We drive them to games, practices, and play dates. We buy them the equipment for their activities. If they have a struggle, we tap into the appropriate resources, like tutors, to solve the issue. We are our kids’ number one cheerleaders!

But we forget one of THE most important life-habits we can teach our children is… how to eat well. 

Being healthy is the framework for thriving in ALL the other parts of their lives from academics and sports to self-esteem. 

My passion is nutrition.

One day, I tried a little experiment. I offered Cecelie, a healthy, rainbow-colored snack served in a red, rubber, heart-shaped muffin tin.She was immediately intrigued by the unusual presentation. She began by exploring the content of each heart.
   
My daughter was amazed as she watched her daughter pick up a raspberry, admire it, and pop it into her mouth! Cecelie dipped carrots into humus and licked the hummus as if it were a lollipop. She scooped peanut butter with apple slices and munched away on the fruit and veggie gummies. She ate more colors in one sitting than she had in her whole life! 

Food presented this way is enticing to try.....even just a little bite. It's very common for a food to have to be offered a number of times before it is accepted. I think a key element in getting kids to be more adventuresome is to keep putting things "in the muffin tin" and not making a big deal about it. No pressure.
 
And…like any behavior, a parent who models great eating habits is a critical component to the child having great eating habits.

Take your kids to the produce isle and talk about all the colors, shapes, and sizes of the produce. Encourage curiosity by asking, “What do you think this tastes like?” Then try them together. 

Presentation, introduction, reintroduction, modeling, low stress, enthusiasm, and fun are all apart of encouraging kids to eat well.
Dear Friend,
 I pray that you may enjoy good health
and that all may go well with you, even as your soul is getting along well.
3 John 2

Parents, how do you deal with the picky-eater syndrome?

By,
Leigh Miller




About Leigh Miller:
Leigh is married with four "kids" ranging from 20-30 in age. She also has a son-in-law, two grandkids, a dog, and a grand-dog!Leigh graduated from Miami University, Ohio. She has been working in the area of nutrition for over ten years. She loves to empower families to live healthier lives. Her other passions include golf, Bible study, her sorority alumni group, cooking and travel. Leigh has lived in over twenty cities in the USA, Canada, and Europe. Leigh and her family have lived in Littleton, Colorado since 2000. She considers it her favorite place to call home!
Pop over to Leigh’s website if you would like more nutrition information.

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Faith, hope, and love,
~Lori