Monday, March 25, 2013

Easter Poem

Happy Easter. In keeping with my blog's tradition, I will be posting a poem by my dad, Robert Appel, his pen name was Rockman. Miss you, Pops.



Dear Jesus

At once both shepherd an the lamb
I lost you on good Friday
How could I know our Father's plan
My firm foundation turn to clay.

Left behind in deepest sorrow
I look upon that Calvary hill
What worth is there in my tomorrows
My cup no longer would you fill.

Then beyond all that I can understand
You changed my sorrow into joy
With life and death at your command
My Rock they could not destroy.

Now by Thy wonders Easter morn
We understand and share together
That death is not a crown of thorns
But new life to live forever.

Amen.
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......Rockman 4/21/2002



Note to the Reader:
These photos were taken in the Holy Land. The first is at the Garden of Gethsemane. The second at the Garden Tomb. My mom and I traveled to Israel together this past fall.What a blessing. Have  a blessed Easter. The TOMB is empty!
~Lori



Monday, March 18, 2013

NO More Scaredy-Cat


Friends, 
I have had the privilege of getting to know Linda Tang, a mom with a huge heart for the Lord. I know you will be blessed reading about conquering fear with courage! You will feel motivated to pray for this quality for your children when uncertainty, insecurity, and doubt enter their lives. You will be blessed by her words.
Faith, hope, and love,
Lori


Courage: persevering with confidence in spite of difficulty, danger, pain or fear.

The Cowardly Lion wanted it desperately. During The Wizard of Oz, we saw him clutch his tail and wipe his runny nose, sobbing, often running and hiding during outbursts due to his fear and weakness. Expressing fear meant that he was getting closer to unearthing the strength he believed he lacked but was hidden below the surface.

I think all of us have courage in the areas we lack, but sometimes, we don't see it take root until we've traveled a long journey fraught with obstacles--only to discover that the courage we lacked was there all along. 

Often, it's the journey that gives us the opportunity and ability to put courage into play; otherwise known as God's refinement process. 

If all our characteristics are ingredients contributing to who we are, and He is above us mixing them all together, He might be saying, "Hmm, given what I am planning for your life and for eternity, and given I know all that will take place in your life and the plans I have for you, I think you might need more patience, or sensitivity or courage." 

We can trust He knows how much to allow in our lives and what exactly is needed, for His purposes and plans are intentional and the very best for us. "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." (Jeremiah 29:11)

For our children, courage may look like a lot of different things and may need to come through in many areas. It might be needed when starting a new school and having to make new friends, getting up in front of the class to give an oral report, standing up to someone to defend another, speaking out against a wrong action to declare a truth, not following where the crowd is going...there are countless examples of circumstances where our kids have to face their weakness and sometimes go through a refinement process in order to become stronger, independent and stand on their own two feet. And through that, we have to encourage our children to listen to the Word of God, not the words of the world.

Praying for courage and endurance is a prayer worth praying for our children. 

The practice runs may be painful and challenging, our kids may have to duck and hide behind a tree a few times and you may have to wipe their tears with a tissue (not a tail), but once developed, they will be more equipped with what they need for life’s journeys.  

And... with God as our personal refiner, we can trust that He knows how much we need in order to build that oh-so important attribute. We don’t need a wizard nor a witch—just God and His eternal plan for the road He has marked out for us. Yellow brick or otherwise.

"Dear God, build up _______ to become a person who is strong and courageous because he/she trusts in you. As he/she faces people or circumstances that will test his/her convictions, help him/her not to be paralyzed by them but to always remember that you are with her/him."   
(From: While they Were Sleeping, by Anne Arkins and Gary Harrell)

Recommended Scriptures:
"For my power is made perfect in weakness." (2 Corinthians 12:9)
"The Spirit helps us in our weakness." (Romans 8:26)
"For when I am weak, then I am strong." (2 Corinthians 12:10)
"Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the LORD your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you." (Deuteronomy 31:6)



Linda Tang 

After graduating Syracuse University with a degree in political science and journalism, Linda was hired at Petersen Publishing’s Hunting, Fishing and ‘TEEN Magazines where she began her career in publicity and marketing but kept her creative writing up on the side. She had her first YA Novel published in 2001 entitled, Picture Perfect (Lunchbox Press). From publishing, she went on to work for Miss Universe, Inc., promoting and marketing the MISS USA, MISS UNIVERSE and MISS TEEN USA CBS live telecasts and was later hired as Assistant Marketing Director for TalkRadio 790 KABC-AM where she generated publicity for TalkRadio, KLOS, and ESPN radio stations. 

Now a stay-home-mother and working in her children’s classrooms each week at the Open Classroom Leadership Magnet School, she serves as a group discussion leader at Bible Study Fellowship (BSF) and keeps her hand in publicity and marketing on a contractual basis.

Having struggled with the transition from career to motherhood, Linda decided to write a book addressing God’s role in re-establishing a woman’s identity. She is represented by Blythe Daniel Literary Agency in Colorado Springs, CO and speaks at MOPS groups regularly.

You can visit her blog at www.lindawriteson.com and check in on her daily chats at: https://www.facebook.com/ShapingYourIdentityInMotherhood


Linda Tang lives in Southern California with her husband and two daughters.

Monday, March 11, 2013

The AHHH and AWE


 Gentle ripples. Light reflected. Easy breeze. Peace.

 I watched the sun dip into the ocean at Key West. The vendors and visitors celebrated the end of the day. AHHH and AWE were the emotions expressed.

A sunset is the picture of peace. But have you noticed...it is not still peace. Not stagnant peace. Movement was a part of the scene before me.  Rippling waves, clouds forming pictures, wind catching hair, sun bending over. All a gentle flow. Ever changing.

I want that feeling in my family. True peace. Harmony among the members. The ability to walk through the movement of life without blowing in a big storm. Where we can disagree- agreeably. Where we can love even if we see things differently. 

My kids are entering their young adult years
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We expect our kids to think, feel, talk, and walk like us. But they want to do it in the toddler vernacular,  "By self." To be their own person. Sometimes we are surprised by who they are becoming. It's possible we may not like or appreciate choices they make. Yet the decisions are theirs.

"If only they would ask me," we cry.

"By Self," they say.

The sun is setting on my highly involved parenting. A new day has begun, where stepping back and saying less is the order of the day. The time when asking is more common than answering. 

"What do you think about this?" Instead of "I think this..." 

The tables are turned. We could give a great answer, if only they would ask. If only they would heed our wisdom. Yet we may not be invited to the conversation.

So we watch the setting sun and wait. 

Just as the sets every day, change is guaranteed  There are the days that seem longer than others but even so we know a new day is right around the corner. I have learned, respect and love are the essential "peaces" of harmony in families. With respect and love is it okay when a new day is dawning. As the sun comes up, we will all be able to find our way and change and grow together.

Here are a five tips (plus one) for parenting young people.
1. Back off a bit. Act like a consultant or coach rather than a controller.
2. Ask questions- "How will this choice help you get where you want to go?"
3. Avoid being quick with a solution. Let the teen/ young adult wrestle with the issue.
4. Let the young person own the decision and the result.
5. Be supportive and encouraging.
And of course...pray. 



  Live in harmony with one another.
Romans 12:16


Created by Melanie

Monday, March 4, 2013

Open Gate

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The three of us made a pact. A triple L pact. Lisa, Laura, and I (Lori) agreed not worry about a neat or even clean house before a visit. (ohhhhh!)We all had preschoolers, toddlers, and babies. We decided life was busy and ...well stressful enough. Why toss housekeeping into the mix?

We were free!

Because there were no expectations, we got together regularly. Kids played, moms visited. We reenacted  The Shamu Show in the backyard. The preschoolers and toddlers became Killer Whale trainers and the three moms, announcers. (FYI...We lived in San Diego the home of Sea World. Side note: my kids could name sea creatures way before farm animals.)

It was A-OKAY if the other families entered a home that looked like a California earthquake had just rocked the world. We all understood. Our conversations were never finished because sentences were rarely completed (If you have little ones, you know what I mean). But the sense of camaraderie was worth every interruption.

How often do we put off getting together with friends because our home isn't perfectly cleaned, organized, stocked, or decorated?

Be free. Let it go. Make your own triple L pact with a couple neighbors. Live, laugh, and love whether or not your home is in tip-top shape. (The kids will just mess it up anyway!)



Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling. 
1 Peter 4: 9
Created by Melanie
What do you need to be free of  so you can engage with friends?